What Is My Psychologist Really Thinking of Me?

Let’s be honest.

At some point in therapy, almost everyone has wondered:

• “Does she think I’m dramatic?”
• “Am I talking too much?”
• “Was that bad to say?”
• “She probably thinks I should have figured this out by now.”
• “I bet I’m her most chaotic client.”
  

If you’ve ever had that thought mid-session while I’m nodding thoughtfully… you are absolutely not alone.

So let me gently pull back the curtain.

Here’s what I'm is actually thinking.

1. “That Makes Sense.”

Truly.

Even if the behaviour feels irrational to you. Even if you’re frustrated with yourself. Even if you’re saying, “This is so stupid.”

Most of the time, I’m thinking "Of course you responded that way. Given what you’ve been carrying, that makes complete sense."

Psychologists are trained to look for patterns and context — not flaws.

2. “You’re Being Really Brave Right Now.”

It might not feel brave to you.

You might just feel messy, tearful, awkward, or unsure.

But sitting down and talking honestly about anxiety, depression, food struggles, work stress, trauma, or parenthood overwhelm? That’s courage.

Even if you’re making jokes to deflect.Even if you’re saying, “I don’t even know why I’m crying.”

Especially then.

3. “You Are So Hard On Yourself.”

This one comes up a lot.

Many of the people I work with are competent, thoughtful, capable — and relentless with themselves.

While you’re worrying that I’m judging you, I’m usually noticing how much pressure you put on yourself and wondering how we can turn that volume down.

4. “You’re Not My Most ‘X’ Client.”

Not the most anxious.Not the most dramatic.Not the most broken.Not the most complicated.

Therapy rooms are full of very human struggles.

What feels enormous and unique to you is often deeply understandable.

You’re not shocking me. You’re not too much. You’re not a burden.

5. “I Wonder What Would Help You Feel Safer Right Now.”

That’s often where my mind is.

Not:

• “Why are you like this?”
• “This is ridiculous.”
• “You should know better.”

But:

• “How do we make this feel steadier?”
• “What’s underneath this?”
• “How can we help you feel less alone in this?”
  

6. “It’s a Privilege.”

At the end of our sessions, I often say something like:

“It’s been a privilege spending this time with you.”

And I really, truly mean that. All the way down to my bones.

You’re trusting me with the parts of your life you don’t show everyone. The messy thoughts. The self-doubt. The guilt. The fears you don’t say out loud at work or at home.

That’s not small.

Getting to witness someone untangle something they’ve carried alone for years… that’s sacred work. I don’t take it lightly. I don’t get used to it. I don’t sit there thinking, “Well, that was just another hour.”

I’m thinking:

Thank you for letting me in. Thank you for being honest. Thank you for doing something hard.

Therapy isn’t one-sided. It’s collaborative. And being invited into your inner world — even the chaotic bits — genuinely is an honour.

So when I say it’s a privilege, I’m not being polite.

I mean it.

The Truth

If you’re spending time worrying about what your psychologist thinks of you…

There’s a good chance you worry about what everyone thinks of you.

And that right there?That’s something we can gently work on.

If This Is Stopping You From Booking

If fear of being judged is holding you back from starting therapy, I want you to know:

You don’t need to be polished. You don’t need to be articulate. You don’t need to have your story organised.

You just need to show up.

If you’re in Brisbane (Alderley or surrounding areas) or looking for telehealth support, and you’re wondering whether therapy might help — I’d love to support you.

And if you spend the first session secretly wondering what I think of you?

We can talk about that too.

It’s more common than you think.